January 9, 2023
if you’re here, you’ve probably asked yourself this question before. maybe this sounds familiar: you love the idea of having a big wedding, but when you really start to think of what’s actually involved when it comes planning and executing a big wedding, you’re not as much in love with the idea.
i get it.
big weddings sound a whole lot like spending a sh*t ton of money on just one day that’s going to fly by in a blur, for a whole bunch of a guests that you may only be inviting out of obligation and won’t even get the chance to say hi to on the big day. and in the aftermath of the pandemic, i think something that a lot of have realized is that things don’t to be extravagant to be meaningful and special. in fact, i’m a believe that the opposite is true – the smaller and more intentional something is, the more meaningful it becomes.
so here’s the good news: you don’t have to have a big wedding!!!
i’m here to tell you that it’s OKAY to not want to have a big wedding. even if you feel pressure from parents, grandparents, or maybe even your friends – it’s your day, not theirs.
ultimately, i can’t tell you what you should do – but i can help you get closer to your decision. i have a list of questions you can ask yourself that will help make your decision clearer, as well as the pros and cons of a big wedding vs eloping.
of course, nothing is without flaws, and that goes for eloping. here are some of the pros and cons of choosing an elopement over a big wedding.
PRO: you can elope whenever and wherever you want. it can be in the middle of the week in italy, or you can spend a weekend up at your family cabin. you aren’t trapped by limitations of the work week, or having a huge amount of guests to account for.
CON: you do have to narrow down the guest list, and take into account your friends and families budgets. while you are able to travel wherever you want to elope, your closest friends and family may not be able to – so it is certainly something to keep in mind when planning your elopement.
PRO: you can do whatever you want on your elopement day. you want to go bungee jumping? sure. you want to go for a 3 hour hike and having a romantic picnic setup at the top? let’s do it. let your imagination run wild! what does your dream day look like?
CON: you have to miss out on the big party at the end of the night. need i elaborate?
PRO: there is so much less pressure (about everything). if something goes wrong, it’s easy enough to make adjustments. you get to the wedding day and there’s something you don’t feel like doing? literally no worries. and there’s no reason to feel like you have to put on a “performance” for your guests – it will only be your closest family and friends there!
CON: you have to put in the work of researching your vendors. at a small elopement, the vendors you choose become that much more important, especially because you want to ensure your choosing the right people who truly do care about making your day perfect.